Destructive Words

"Don't let the destruction of others people's words determine your character!"

Going through life and being a public figure these past 8 years, I've experienced so many different kinds of people. Most of the people I meet or talk to are so amazing and so kind hearted. And I feel like I am truly blessed everyday by those people who reach out to me for support, advocacy or just need someone who knows what they are going through.

However, every once in a while I also get the chance to meet hurtful people as well - you know those people that aren't nice. Haha sometimes I even meet people that literally try to tear me down. And to be brutally honest, there are times when I DO want to attack back. But then I have to remind myself of who I am and the person I've committed myself to be.

We can't let the destruction of other people's words determine our character. And trust me the moment that you choose to be a person of love, and acceptance, you will be tested every day for it because it's just how society is.

Think about it, how easy is it to wrong someone who has wronged you? It's NOT that hard at all. I see kids doing it all the time - they bully each other and yes so do adults and they do it for so many different reasons - like, someone's economic status, they way they present themselves, the colour of their skin, how they speak and the list goes on and on. Growing up I was bullied because I didn't look like the other little girls (yes I was born biologically female but have transitioned to male). I've been bullied because of being transgendered....I've heard words like "FREAK, TRANNY, HE/SHE, IT and the list can go on.) and some of those have been by close friends and family at times. I've been beaten but I am still here, trying to bring about a little love and acceptance in a world that one see life in black and white - instead of a multiple of colours. They can't quite me and I will not be silenced.

However, as a public figure I get that this is going to happen to me. But as just an ordinary person going about your day you may also have had to deal with this.

So my advice to you is - the most manly and/or womanly thing you can do is choose love and acceptance. And to love people whether you think they deserve it or not! Be the bigger person. And to finish this off with a great quote originally by Bernard Baruch but mostly known as a quote by Dr. Seuss "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Mad Love - Inspirational Transguy